Lovesickness – the heartache about lost love, the grief for shattered dreams, or for a shared future that can no longer be realised, or the sorrow about the unfulfilled wish to grow old together.
Be it due to the end of a long-term relationship, a separation while falling in love or an unrequited love – almost everyone knows the pain of a broken heart. Sexual therapy can help manage the grief.
About lovesickness
Heartache is the emotional response to unrequited or lost love. It is mostly psychological, but physical symptoms can also be triggered.
It goes without saying: If your love is not returned or the love of your life has ended, you suffer. Feelings of rejection, helplessness, vulnerability, and loneliness are spreading. Suddenly the world no longer appears rose-coloured and warm, but grey and cold.
This happens because if you are lovesick, your body is exposed to an interplay of hormones. Therefore, you can suffer from sleep disorders, increased or decreased appetite, stress, sadness and inner restlessness.
You can easily make an appointment at VenusMed in Vienna. Either by phone on +43 1 890 80 70, via email at info@venusmed.at or by using our contact form below. We also give appointments at short notice!
These responses are hardly surprising, as especially after the separation of a long-term partnership, those affected usually do not only lose a loved one, but also a trusted friend. Any plans for the future they used to have with their partner just vanish, and there no longer is the identity as “us”.
Heartache is something that is perfectly normal. But if you no longer know how to cope with it and find it difficult to look forward in your life, psychotherapeutic sex therapy can help you find new ways to deal with your situation.
Who the therapy is for
If one or more of the following points apply to you, then sexual therapy with our experts can most probably help you to find strategies for dealing with your heartache:
- The people around you have had enough of your conversations about your lost love. Therefore, you do not talk about it anymore, but still suffer terribly from it.
- You are already in a new partnership but are secretly still yearning for your ex-partner.
- Your thoughts repeatedly revolve around your ex-partner.
- You feel paralysed in the world of emotions and feelings.
- You do not know how to deal with your lovesickness.
Process & goals of the therapy
With sexual therapy for lovesickness at VenusMed, we offer a protected space in which you can deal with your experience of your lovesickness and/or separation – in an open discussion atmosphere. With the help of one of our specialised psychotherapists, you will work towards overcoming your lovesickness and heartache.
You can easily make an appointment at VenusMed in Vienna. Either by phone on +43 1 890 80 70, via email at info@venusmed.at or by using our contact form below. We also give appointments at short notice!
Everyone has their own ways to overcome lovesickness. Sometimes this can take a month, and sometimes it takes years. At VenusMed we take our time and respond to your specific needs. We warmly welcome you to work through these often painful memories with us – so that love can find its way back into your life.
Costs of sexual therapy for lovesickness
| Service | Price |
|---|---|
| Sexual therapy session for individuals (50 minutes) | 95 € / person |
| Sexual therapy session for couples (50 minutes) | 180 € / couple |
Of course, we accept payment in cash and by debit- (Maestro) or credit card.
Of course, we accept payment in cash and by debit- (Maestro) or credit card.
FAQs about sexual therapy for lovesickness
Everyone is different, so the process of dealing with lovesickness varies for everyone. Although, there are a few things to consider that help many people. This can for example be breaking off any contact with the person who is causing your heartache, as well as to dedicate some time to simply let your pain out freely. Thus, you should allow yourself to cry as much as you need. Speaking to friends, family or a psychotherapist can also help a great deal. Activities to take your mind off things, such as a trip or an excursion with your friends are also a good idea. During these hard times it is important you strengthen your self-esteem – for example by a conversation with one of our professional sex therapists.
The sorrow about a lost love puts your body under enormous stress. To some extent, even in a similar way as during a drug withdrawal. This is because the person causing your lovesickness is or was like a “drug” for you. They are or were responsible for the release of dopamine (the “happiness hormone”) in your brain. But since now your relationship is over, these hormones are no longer produced in the same way, thus your body suffers from hormone interplay. Common consequences are often loss of appetite, weight loss, sadness, anxiety, insomnia, stomach problems, a weakened immune system, as well as a general feeling of weakness. Symptoms like these are perfectly normal.
However, if you no longer know how to deal with your situation, please contact us. Our experienced sex therapists are here for you and can help you find new ways of dealing with the situation.
Unfortunately, there is no “universal expiry date” for lovesickness. Everyone is different, just as every love or relationship is too. There are various aspects that can play a role in how long it takes to stop feeling lovesick. Therefore, it individually depends on factors such as how much time you used to spend with your ex-partner, or whether you still have contact with them.
However, in many cases it may take an average of 6 to 24 months for the symptoms to subside, until you will eventually be feeling that you are standing with both feet firmly on the ground again.
Lovesicknes has a few characteristic symptoms that are experienced by most people who are affected. These are for example, sleep disorders, sadness, increased or decreased appetite, stress and inner restlessness. If you experience these symptoms because of an unrequited love or after a separation, you are most probably lovesick. But these symptoms are absolutely normal, and almost everyone has experienced them at least once in their lives, since almost everyone has been lovesick before.
If do not know how to cope with your lovesickness anymore, or if you would like professional help and advice, we can help you with our psychotherapeutic sex therapy!
Terminology
For doctors, medical terms are important and a matter of course. However, the terminology can often puzzle patients. In our glossary we explain the medical terms which are often used in our clinic environment.
Contact
You can simply contact us by phone on +43 1 890 80 70, or via email at info@venusmed.at. From Mo-Fr between 11 am and 5 pm you can also directly come by VenusMed in the medical centre Schwedenplatz, Laurenzerberg 2, 1010 Vienna.